Is It Love or Lust?
You can search all over the internet and find tons of sites that will tell you ad nauseam about what love is, how it feels, how it doesn’t feel, why it hurts, how to make it and/or how to get it, even how much it would cost(!)
Here is what some seven and eight-year-olds think love is:
- Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.
- When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.
- Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.
- Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.
But, my question is “how do you know when it is lust?” Doesn’t lust make you smile EVEN when you are tired? When someone loves you don’t they say your name differently in the throes of LUST? If you were in lust with someone you wouldn’t even care about your dumb French fries. And don’t you still think your partner spouse is still handsome or beautiful even when they are smelly and sweaty?
My favorite answer from a seven-year-old regarding love is this:
- You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.
So have I figured out how to tell the difference? Of course not, if I did I would be writing a BOOK about it. And brother, I would be RICH. Because that information would be like holding the Golden Ticket or the Magic Key to something everybody would want to know the answer too! I’ll let you know when I find out.
finsfan13 Said,
December 17, 2006 @ 6:46 pm
Oh I wish I knew the difference when I was younger.. I had my heart broken into pieces twice..Once when I was 18, once when I was 20. The second time it took me 2 years to get over it, I thought this man who hurt me was my soul mate..The only one for me. I thought I could never go on. Then I met the man who is my husband, and I found out what a soul mate really is. This is a man who thinks I’m sexy even when I don’t shave my legs, a man who thinks I smell good even before I brush my teeth.
The funny thing about it is…When my supposed soul mate dumped me when I was 20, I begged The Lord in my nightly prayers to bring him back to me. He never did..He sent me Paul 2 years later instead. He heard my prayers.
pauli's girl Said,
December 27, 2006 @ 4:55 pm
This is something I have very recently been dealing with(I mean like just this past weekend). I am (or think I am, I’m so confused) in love with my man, we’ve known each other 20 some years since grade school. One of our best friends, we’ve known for 15 or so years kissed me this past weekend, and I kissed him back. Now here is the dilemma…Can I love them both for different qualities or am I just lusting after someone that I should not have kissed. I don’t think that love and lust are 2 different things, however you can lust without love, we all know that is true, but really what would love be without a little lust????? Something more to ponder, huh?
Alexandra Said,
December 29, 2006 @ 10:59 pm
I wish I would have known the difference between lust and love back in the day girl. Ooh, I would not have lost my virginity to a man who said that he loved me but didn’t mean it. After he decided that he wanted to be with an older woman with money, he never spoke to me and I was devastated. But now I see why he was meant to go. There was no love. You would fight for love if it was love. It was just that I was 22 and I wanted to know what it was like to have sex because everyone else was doing it. I didn’t realize, years later, how important love would have been if I would have waited for it instead of trying to find it in just anyone. I know better now.
But I am still single. I was happily single but suddenly I finding myself unhappily single.